Jessica, a year-old who lives in Mississippi, was dating a guy recently when the subject of sexual history came up. Jessica said she immediately felt nervous. She'd had sex before, but because of her religious beliefs, had since been abstaining from sex. Sometimes it feels like it's ok for guys to do whatever, but if a girl says, no I'm not a virgin , we're looked at with more shame. That internalized shame is something that a lot of young women unfortunately experience — regardless of religious background. And Jessica's right that men and women are treated differently when it comes to sexual history. If it's not extremely visible in popular culture, countless studies document a sexual double standard. Heterosexual men are generally rewarded for having a higher number of sexual partners, while women are stigmatized for the same thing. So it makes a lot of sense that women are concerned, like Jessica was, about having to tell a new sexual partner whether or not they've had sex before. It's hard to know exactly how many women feel anxious about this, but the first few autofill results on both Google and Yahoo!
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Virginity testing is a controversial practice that aims to determine whether a girl has had sexual intercourse or not. In some cultures, female virginity is highly valued and expected for marriage or employment. Testing may also be conducted in women who are being evaluated for sexual assault.
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Does it bother you to think that your partner may have had other sexual partners before you? It is time to examine your feelings about it before a conflict arises in your relationship. Sex is a deeply personal aspect of our lives. A healthy sex life between two monogamous partners is an indicator of their bond and commitment to each other. This brings us to the concept of virginity. Have you ever dwelled on the idea that your lover may have had other sexual partners before you? You may have dismissed the thought because what you have with your partner is precious — and you believe that their past is their business! But if it bothers you to think that your partner may have had sex with another person before you, or that you do not wish that they have had sex with anyone but you, then you need to rethink your ideas about virginity and sex before it becomes a point of contention between the two of you. Many cultures around the world place a lot of importance on virginity; a virgin man or a woman who has never had sex. Many cultures believe that a person should be a virgin till they get married, and that their first and only sexual partner should be their spouse.
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